It has been only a few days after the marriage and things have started to calm down on all fronts. Even our over stretched muscles have now received pampering but the vacuum has started to take a toll too.
Such is the hustle bustle of a traditional wedding be it a punjabi or a South Indian wedding. Months of preparations and only a few days to get everything right. Grandness sounds like those of the commonwealth games – so it has been.
No one man can perfect this stage, it requires all the family to join hands and show our love for our daughters. Something I heard from my Taeji perfectly describes the ultimate need of a perfect wedding; Unity in the family.
A Sangeet ceremony to give an open stage for celebration and display the joy through dance and music when all the bhabhis and sisters participate in dance routines. Finally, the varmala, the pure and emotional kanyadaan and the vidai.
Mind you! The last three ceremonies happen almost over night almost everywhere in our state.
In between are the fun rituals of stealing the groom’s shoes in hope of fulfilling some demands of his new sister in laws and making the groom worship bride’s sandals by camouflaging it as a deity
( this one hardly works )
All these pearl like rituals are sewed in strong silk of love, faith and commitment. Beautifully mentioned in indian Vedic scriptures as The seven vows which are read to the couple. This ceremony invites all to listen to the Pujaris with understanding and a sudden serious calm.
The expressions of the couple serene and optimistic, give all a surety of their prosperous future.
Not to forget the Baaratis ( beacon of chaos in many wedding ) or invitees from the groom’s side and there appeasement which remains an uphill task for us all working on behalf of the bride.
They all came from various parts of the country and some from across the seas. Indian weddings have grown into a hybrid of acceptance at a different level and ritual which remain footed in the rich culture of our past. It was this mixture that we had to take care as we invited all the guests to our state, where some had never visited and some were here decades ago. It was an opportunity to introduce them to the richness of our culture of rituals and so we did. The good will in there hearts was resounding as all the ceremonies went on peacefully and with great passion from all fronts.
At the end of the day it all rests on the shoulders of the bride and the groom to carry forward this beautiful dream which took shape from each working hand’s stroke of faith. Primarily with the blessings of our mother. ( mother india as I will call her 😉 )